food that sex you.

Jello Everyone!
Its been a while, but I've come back with treats for you. I was asked if there are foods that are not safe to use in the bedroom? first I'll go by saying stay away from your room when your using food as much as possible.
You can use any food that you are into, you just have to be careful how and where you use it. Most food is to be use on the surface. External use only specially for you ladies. you do not want what was suppose to be a sexy night of sweet treats and fun to end up a night of emergency cavity check at the hospital.
With that said. I will begin by saying that you have to make your food selection with a purpose. don't just use whip cream because its the common choice. for example if you want you partner to suck harder and longer on particular parts of your body, add something he or she likes that is hard to remove with one lick. EX:Peanut Butter, Chocolate, Honey, caramel are all good for making the licking and sucking foreplay last longer.
-If he or she likes a feast and not just a taste, treat you partner by being the plate that serves his dessert.How cool would it be if your partner walked in your love nest and gets welcomed but you on the table covered in all her/his favorite treats with a cherry on top.(not sushi. Imagine the feast that will become YOU later.
-for the women who wants to experiment internally. I recommend ice. I have heard of Popsicle but,I will say that ice may be the safest thing to use inside of you because
1, It will melt right off and turn into water, not juice.
2, Playing with ice can be lot of fun and erotic.
3, A challenge for your partner imaging him being erect preparing to penetrate you knowing there is ice in there. while in he will fight to stay erect and enjoy the pleasure and the same time, it can drive you both crazy in a good way.
- Men don't like to affiliate cold things with their penis and call it pleasure. however, you can surprise them, because ice cream is a great way to use cool treats if you like. the warmth in your mouth and the cool temperature of the ice-cream can make him feel pleasure his never known before. If done right. there are lots you can do with food to keep your sex life spontaneous but you won't know unless you try.
so i will leave you by saying go and experiment with your LOVER... BON APPETIT!

the Pre_Game.

Pre-game
Do you ever wonder why lately you may not be getting what you want in the bedroom gentleman? Do you think about how things just aren’t the way they use to be? Or about how she is not that enthusiastic about having the old sexo anymore? You feel like you woman changed, and she not the freak she use to be? Well You’d be surprise to know that it’s not your physical being , It’s also not about her disliking sex now. Don’t worry, she still loves you.
The truth is you have a lot of control over what happens in the bedroom. Good news is, “You can get what you want”. Your sex life can be the way it was when you two first started. You can still have that fire burning heat making love all night thing happening for you. The way you get it isn’t by simply telling her what you do or don’t want. Playing the blame game on why your sex life is now boring or that is feels like it is treated like a chore also isn’t the answer. The way you get your women when you want her is by doing the same things you did or use to do, or doing what you did when the relationship was fresh… What you do outside of the bedroom has a lot of control over what happened inside your bedroom. Wine and dine you women one in a while. Have date night, Hold her hands. When you are around a lot of people still look at her as if she was the only women in the room. Greet her with deep kisses, not just a peck. Complement her , call her beautiful. PAY ATTENTION! If she changes her hair (say something). It’s better to tell that her you’re not a fan of the new hairdo then to say nothing at all. Saying nothing indicated that you don’t care! Your women will seek your attention in ways they may not notice themselves at times. A sign that your women is trying to get your attention is when she is always doing something new . No matter what it is... whether with her hair, her wardrobe, the house, Wearing something new to bed, or changing their perfume. So pay attention As much as you can. ( I know that may feel like a chore) ;-)
The reason I stress the things that happens outside you bedroom so much is because they are the same things that can help or kill your sex life. A woman will do anything for a man who makes her feel like a Queen. Make her feel like you only have eyes for her every now and then. Remind her of how amazing you think she is. And thrust me she will say yes to sex even when she is not exactly in the mood. When you treat your woman right and keep the romance alive, you now can starts negotiating the matters of your sexual needs without hesitation. When is come to getting down she may even surprise you by giving you more then you imagined. Your sex life and your relationship can feel brand new every once in a while; But it’s all up to you. You have to make it happen for yourself in the bedroom. I recommend that you and your partner set up a date night at least once a month. Try doing more out of the house dates. And when you do go out do something you both like and make sure you both will have lots of fun together. That is the simple key to keeping the fire burning in your relationship. Now be merry and go love on your lady.
GOOD LUCK!

Dinner Time!

you asked for it so here it is.
When we talk about cunnilingus most men think that just licking the clitoris is all it takes to get a women to climax. WRONG!! that may work but its not enough to bring her to the kind of orgasm she desires. she may get off but orgasm... I don't know. Almost anyone can lick the clit and get the job done. but if you want to be remembered... listen up
It has to be magic or chemistry between the 2 of you that makes this to work. listen to her, pay attention to her body language, and her mood. take you time, don't just dive in like a hungry dog... when you make your way down there, be passionate, open her legs, kiss them, her inner thigh,kiss the lips of her vagina, and be gentle. That will already have her blood flowing. She may be the type that like to direct, tell you do go there, and to that. Listen to her, but do not rush to do it trying get her to reach her peak. Take it slow,because the longer you keep her aroused the better. Tease her, make her long for it, that way when you finally give her what she wants it will be one explosion following another. Every women is different so the rule don't apply for everyone, but listen to the woman's body and respond. that will never fail you.
Sucking on a clitoris. Now be very careful the first time you try sucking on a woman's clit. Some women are very sensitive and will shriek in pain.so a soft suck would be better. some women take longer to reach climax so feel free to add a finger or two in her to reach their G spot in order to help stimulate her more. the way you can find that spot is if you hook your finger upward inside of her. its located up there, you may have to do some maneuvering depending on the women. she also may not want your finger in her during oral, so if you do that and the respond isn't good get your fingers out of there. It also is not enough to keep licking her clitoris. Sucking,(not hard core sucking) preferably sucking as if you are making out with her vagina. Look at her if you can(it may be hard because of the position your in). reach up and massage her breast, ask her if she likes it, use your teeth if she is into that kinda thing, but i don't advise it for immatures.
Use clever and fun ways and places to do it. Men joke about having there women as a meal all the time. its may help if one time you actually pick her up, lay her on the table pull a chair up and enjoy the feast. (using all sanitary procedure of course). know your women so you can give her what she wants, and using these tips can make giving her head memorable every time. you'll be surprise the things you women would be willing to do for you after that ;-)

To do or not to do the Cunnilingus

ORAL SEX.
People love oral sex and boast about it all the time. However there are a few people who are not as expressive as others when it comes to oral sex.For certain men when it come to performing oral sex on women its a no go.(Sadly)lots of relationships end because of sex complications... oral sex happens to be on the list.women are often pretentious when it come to giving men oral sex. Why!I'm not sure. we sometimes act as if the mouth is precious and no ones genital belong in it.
GIVE ME A BREAK!.
Oral sex could be the best thing in your sex life.Everyone enjoys oral sex. some may just be scared of how good it feels.(you know... kinda like how some man feel about their nipples and anus lol). There are always so many questions and worries about how people feel about oral sex. Almost everyone has a preference or complication, but underneath it all. Its pretty simple.
Ladies Ladies Ladies
Stop being afraid of performing or receiving oral sex. Its normal and its great. its hard enough most of the time getting an orgasms through penetration. Oral sex can work wonders for your sex life!The only way you should be afraid is if you have some kind of vaginal malfunctions, and if that's the case don't let anyone know your business lol.I have to say that I hear about the difficulties of performing oral sex more from women. Either you think its nasty or you not sure your good at it. Ladies... It is not nasty. It could be nasty if your partner is a nasty, unhealthy, unclean pig. other then that, it is SKIN.(stored in someones pant but it is skin!) lol. Imagine as if you are sucking on a skin covered lengthy lollipop. sounds funny I know, but its true. As far as skills goes... Come on ladies, if you type oral sex on any search engine you will find that 90 percent of the result revolve around male satisfaction. Men LOVES oral sex, and care about it more then intercourse sometimes. you can read books and get tips to help you please your partner, but the only way to be good at it is too practice. you may not want to be blowing your man everyday, he may not want you practicing and hurting his penis either. go to an adult toy store and purchase a "candy penis".it is shaped and designed like a real penis there are different sizes. its a real lollipop so you will enjoy the taste. Although man are not that complicated, every man has that thing that drives them crazy. Go practice and find out what it is. Better yet ask them to make it easier on you and your partner. If you are not having fun practicing something is wrong, and seek other alternatives.
Gentleman...
You men are great with this sex thing, but Its funny the way some of you feel about oral sex... Some of you take it more seriously them you take a relationship. I have even encounter men who claims to have rules to when or whom they will eat. YET! they are the same man who want every women they come in contact with sexually to blow their socks off. I guess that's just part of the sexually selfish nature of men... Now listen...I'm not in anyway implying that you should go put your mouth on just about anybody, but try every now and then to reciprocate the gesture. Women love oral sex just like you if not more them you do. So if your using a discriminatory process when it come to deciding who you will or will not please orally, don't expect it from every women you go to bed with. Keep it intercourse exclusive. It feels as if some of you sees oral as intimacy that is only to be shared with your future wife. (That is great!). however don't feel that way and also find it okay for any prostitute like females and blow you off. I'm not attacking you fellas, but the double standard should go to hell. Moving on i'm glad to say that this problems commonly exist in young minded or inexperienced enough man. Some man LOVES to give and receive oral favor.thrust me WE KNOW when a man love pussy. (excuse the language)you can tell by the way they eat it, go about eating it, or talk about it. Their never shy about about it, and they refer to it as one of their favorite meal at times lol.
To move on if you love oral sex, need more oral sex, or whatever your case may be. Do what you think you need to do to be happy. If partaking in the cunnilingus rituals isn't your thing, then by all mean don't do it. BUT! if you want it, love it, need more of it, do what you need to do to find out why your not yet satisfied with your oral sex life. Compromise with your partner. If He or she likes your genital area shaved, waxed, trimmed, bald,try it you might like it too. Lets not forget that its about getting what you want. just remember at least 3 orgasm a week is required to keep your libido up. You need to maintain a healthy sex life. However you keep that up is your business, but i can surly tell you oral sex will help.
P.S. if you want my next blog to be about how to perform good oral sex. let me know and i will deliver. (on both men and women).

TRUE OR FALSE?

Questions men often ask is " How do i know my women is faking it?" Another is " Why is she faking it?"
WHY?
Okay first I would like to address that women don't really enjoy faking it. I'm sure majority of the women in the world would love to not have to fake it.We love climaxing just like you. We would love to have a man give us exploding orgasms. Or a women (what ever you prefer). Unfortunately it doesn't always work like that. There are a few reasons why a women would fake it.. The sex may not be the best and, it doesn't mean your not good. Its just not working for her at the moment. However if you have reason to believe that your lady is an habitual faker.. You might wanna start questioning why she is sticking around??? just saying... Another reason could be that it hurt. After having sex a lot the vagina gets swollen and it may occasionally hurt. o she figures if she fakes it you them can proceed to reaching your climax and it will all be over.
NOW HOW CAN YOU TELL?
Some women are just bad at it and gentle man I hate to point out that you are all even more stupid not to notice. If she is hysterically screaming and moving a lot she "MAY" be faking. That does not mean screamers are fakers. Some women are loud and that is how they express themselves. They have these loud outburst of pleasure, however an orgasms takes concentration energy to achieve. Therefore when having sex with a women.. Listen to her breathing. Its all in there. She should be taking a lot of noticeable breaths almost like short deep breaths, she may moan and quite possibly yell. If you are experienced enough, you should be able to tell if a women is faking or enjoying themselves by lightening to her breathing. Specially during oral sex. ( I'll keep that for another section.) Another way to tell is if she has reach climax is the contraction inside. Her vagina will pulsate. her walls may pulsate and, you can feel it while inside of her. Then there is the body language. If she is having a good orgasm or one at all she is going to want to hold on to something. It may be you, the sheets or something around involved in your sexcapade lol. She may even push you off. In the mist of it she may develop some strength like a super women and convolve into something you can't quite figure out. When it happens will take a strong may to hold her down. PS..... tTat means you did a GREAT job.
Despite all I just said ... Some women are just too damn good at faking it you may never be able to tell when she is faking during sex.. However if after what seemed like great sex she immediately is up and moving doing laundry and all kinds of ish.. I can almost guarantee you that she faked it. Cause sex + reaching the big "O" takes energy.
Now ladies don't go thinking that you're too good and that your man, partner, or whomever don't know when you fake it. Some man know and can tell.. specially if they have been with you for a while. sometimes they let you think they believe your Oscar wining performance because they don't care, and why should they. they got what they wanted.

sex is you

there are and have always been perception about women and there sexual desires. there are also expectation from women as far as what they are and should be, even how they should feel. there are some as well for men, but for right now I'm going to focus on the ladies because there are more complications in our corner.
sex and relationship!
my friends and I always seem to end up in great debates and arguments about these standards and differences. witch turns in to "battle of the sexes" mayhem too often. the questions often are... can women really hold a platonic relationship with a men? can we truly have sex with no strings attached? women always end up losers in the love game because of our emotions? are we too emotional and if so why are we? these questions believe it or not we fight about all the time.
Before we move on I will say that I will try to refrain from generalizing things because everyone is not the same. (specially women). although we can relate in a lot of ways we are all very different. hell... we might be the most misunderstood living being on this earth. we somethings struggles to figure our selves out .
women are looked at differently if they are open about sex. that is why most women fear opening up about their sex lives or sexual desires. some women are convince that if they open up they will start falling into these categories that society have created. so i will dedicated the blogs to come to "SEX". I am a women and i am not ashamed of loving sex and the world knowing about it because it is natural and normal. you just have to be smart about it and know what you value the most.
p.s fell free to ask me questions !